Sexual healing – a case

The room is quiet. Twenty people sit in a ring, gently attentive to what one person is saying. The man speaking is talking about how he is not able to commit to intimate relationships. “I don’t know if I turn away out of mistrust, or if I’m just not interested.”

Sarah Peyton is the constellation facilitator, and so she is sitting beside the man, listening for what could be at play that is stopping him from having what he wants. She begins by having the man choose one person from the circle to stand up and be him, and one person to stand up and represent “women.” As the story unfolds, with people moving and the speaker relating the history of his family, others come into the exploration: his mother, his sister, his great aunt. These are experiences that are common to all constellation work. It would be possible to enter this type of exploration with any facilitator.

But what is different in this constellation is that Sarah is considering the brain and the neurobiological system of the seeker, as well as his internal world and his family. She puts the seeker’s sexuality and care circuits into play to see where they might be entangled. As the constellation resolves, the discovery is made that sexuality needs to be freed from its connection with his great aunt’s experience of sexual violence during World War II, and as it is freed the seeker’s body relaxes with relief. He has a sense of turning toward a new love with fresh interest and ease.

The experience of studying constellation facilitation with the brain in mind with Sarah Peyton is one of fun and complex exploration of self and other. The internal structure of constellation work is made clear and is augmented with the entry of human neurophysiology. And the experiential learning about the brain is rocket fuel for self-compassion and for understanding humanity.

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